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Wednesday, May 13, 2015
Pregnant by Rape, I Heard God Tell Me Her Blood Was Innocent by Crystal Blount
I am a birthmother
from rape. I know what many people think about abortion in cases of rape, and I'm
sharing my story to give an alternate point of view to consider.
At 17, I graduated high
school also. I went on to spend two years
at my dream school, Berklee College of Music in Boston, studying music business
and voice. I eventually moved to
California, and completed my Bachelor's degree while working full time in the
entertainment Industry. Currently, I
have worked for a major entertainment company for nearly five years, got my
degree in Marketing, and got married in 2011. I earn an upper middle income, go
to church, and have been recently been working on losing some weight (I've lost
30 lbs. so far) and writing my second book. Yes, I published my first book in
2011! (Prayers & Pillow Talk: A Rape Survivors Journey to Self-Worth.) I’m
currently featured in a billboard campaign in California through Tulare-Kings Right to Life, with Save The 1 speakers in each ad, so good things are
happening and I definitely feel blessed and a sense of purpose!
I know that is a
crazy idea to most, because I had a huge burden to carry because of what he
did, I endured a lot of grief, and I gave up my only child for adoption after
carrying her for nine months. It was
surely hard. I almost didn't make it and
wanted to hurt myself many times because I felt ashamed. For many years, I hated him, blamed him, felt
the world owed me one, and I was mad at God. The world told me I was weak,
crazy, dirty, and that my daughter didn't deserve to live. But, now that I have peace with this journey
of mine, it gave me an incredible testimony which I am blessed to see impacts
people every day. I hope my story is an
encouragement to you.
I can understand how
this issue might tug on your heart, and how it may seem really hard to consider
it realistic to expect a woman to carry a pregnancy to term in the case of rape
-- that it seems impossible to fathom. I
used to think I was the only one in the world it happened to. I’m not alone though, and now I have many
friends who’ve been through the same thing and we’ve all come out stronger.
I was that young girl. As a 14 yr old freshman, virgin, church-going,
smart, young girl, I was raped on my high school campus by an upper class guy I
barely knew. I met him in an upper level
math class and he convinced me to join him in the music department one day,
took me into a dark room, and raped me.
I told no one for almost three months until I could no longer deny I was
pregnant. I was my daddy's little girl
and I was devastated I’d lost my virginity which I’d hoped to save for
marriage. I couldn't bear the thought of disappointing my dad.
Long story short, I
had two abortion appointments -- one to cover up so I didn't have to tell my
Daddy, and the second of which my Dad insisted upon because he felt ashamed of
his failure to protect me, and the family name. I felt ashamed and very sad for
disappointing him and afraid to destroy my family.
Here's where it gets
good: on the way to the second
appointment, I heard God tell me that her blood was innocent, and to take his
hand. I asked my Dad to stop the car and
said I didn't know what I would do (keep the baby or adoption), but that I
would accept the task of carrying the child until she was born -- to choose
LIFE for her. I felt overcome with a
duty to protect this helpless life growing inside me. I had seen her heartbeat. I knew instantly in that car, that it wasn't
her fault, no matter who fathered her; even if he had just been a deadbeat dad.
I knew then it was my duty and God would
somehow give me the strength to bring her into the world.
I did just that, and
with the help of counselors, I chose open adoption for my daughter. I picked her parents -- a couple married many
years who tried for seven years to have a family. She's an honors student now, and graduating
high school in three weeks -- one entire year early at the age of 16. She has been accepted to four colleges, and
wants to become an ER trauma surgeon one day.
At 17, I graduated high
school also. I went on to spend two years
at my dream school, Berklee College of Music in Boston, studying music business
and voice. I eventually moved to
California, and completed my Bachelor's degree while working full time in the
entertainment Industry. Currently, I
have worked for a major entertainment company for nearly five years, got my
degree in Marketing, and got married in 2011. I earn an upper middle income, go
to church, and have been recently been working on losing some weight (I've lost
30 lbs. so far) and writing my second book. Yes, I published my first book in
2011! (Prayers & Pillow Talk: A Rape Survivors Journey to Self-Worth.) I’m
currently featured in a billboard campaign in California through Tulare-Kings Right to Life, with Save The 1 speakers in each ad, so good things are
happening and I definitely feel blessed and a sense of purpose!
My immediately family
is great and we became stronger after that trial. In fact, my parents have now
been married 32 years, despite that really trying time for our family. My
dad has since apologized to me, and said he is so very grateful I chose to
trust God instead of trying to please him, because he loves his grand-daughter
so much!
My daughter knows she
is a gift from God. I tell her every chance she gets. She looks just like ME,
and when I see her smile, I see how good God is and how he took this bad
experience and made it beautiful!
Although she doesn't
know her biological father, and probably won’t ever know him, she has an
adoptive Dad who loves her dearly and would die for her, a biological Grandpa
(my dad) who is now crazy about her and so proud (he finally overcame his shame
and we are stronger than ever too), and many uncles, aunts, and cousins on my side,
and her adoptive side, who get to see just how wonderful and amazing God is and
how He is able to do some really incredible and miraculous things when we give
our problems to Him. She is a really happy teen who is discovering herself
more everyday – she loves dance, photography, and singing.
How did I heal? Mainly, it’s been knowing that my situation
was used by God. Sharing my story to help others helps me heal too, because
shame can’t live when we refuse to be silent.
Over time, and with the help of my counselors, family, and support of
friends, I was able to overcome a lot of struggles. With the help of counselors
and prayer, I was able to forgive the man who raped me. Why? Because, after all, he is human too. Someone probably hurt him once if he thinks
that behavior was okay.
So, when people ask
why I'm pro-life, it's mainly for two reasons. First of all, because I feel a passion to
stand up for those tiny beating hearts who God felt we'd protect, provide for
and be strong enough to bring them into this world because every life matters.
Secondly, I’m pro-life for the women and girls who are so often left alone,
abandoned, dirty, and feeling like they just can't do it. They have been told
throughout life in our society that rape makes them dirty, and that pregnancy
is unthinkable. But the sins of the
father, aren't the sins of the child -- not any more than my sins belong to
you, or vice versa. If rapists aren't even given the death penalty (it's been
deemed too harsh), why should unborn human babies be sentenced to death for the
rapists’ crimes?
We each have our own
lives to live -- each of us who have been given the chance at life that is. I
want all unborn babies to have a chance at life, no matter what any of us has
done -- no matter what mistakes I made, or whatever mistakes the man who raped
me made.
I want us all to have
our own shot at being love, life, and an inspiration to this world. I want us
to be willing to protect each other, and to be there for the girls who have
been taken advantage of -- not make them feel dirty, ashamed, and then have to
have their own flesh and blood literally sucked from them.
It's my goal now to
tell every girl she is precious, to tell every woman she is strong enough to
make it through anything, and that there are people who want to help her get
through it, despite what society says. I
want to tell them to choose life because there are people who will love that
baby to the ends of the earth if she feels she can't be an adequate parent. And that is totally okay. I was so blessed,
and my daughter is amazing! God loves
when we bring our messes to him so He can turn them into a Message.
I hope if you run
into a girl or woman one day who might be struggling with the decision to
choose life for her baby (regardless of the circumstances), that you will think
of me, and encourage her that she can and will succeed at anything. Let her know that she isn't alone, that there
are people who make it their mission to help, that she IS strong enough to
handle anything in life which comes her way, and that she can do it in a way
which gives life and is beautiful. Even
if getting pregnant wasn't her fault, and especially if it wasn't her fault,
she shouldn't be punished by having to go through another trauma, and her baby
isn't guilty either.
BIO: Crystal Blount is a pro-life speaker and
blogger for Save The 1. Her own website is www.CrystalBlount.com.
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